EVICTION NOTICE: To All The Roommates In Your Head (IMPOSTER SYNDROME) Trying To Kill Your Dreams

Alexis
Jun 21, 2020
3 min read

(first of all, shout out to me not fixing this cover photo before posting on Instagram! lol) Anyway,

I call my imposter syndrome, my evil roommate in my head. When I first began my journey, lemme tell you. Homegirl would leave the place (my brain) TRASHED!! She always had something to say! Rudy as a roommate is NOT the vibe. I had to kick her ass out finally.

Sometimes she still calls me up to come to hang out, and I'm like nah sis!!!

Can anybody relate? Or do I sound crazy?

All I know is it took me a while to get to the point where I believe I can accomplish things. At the age of 25, I was already going through a divorce and making pennies as a live-in nanny. I couldn't keep a dollar in my account, and I felt completely defeated.

I blamed myself for it all. I felt unworthy, undesirable, unloveable, all the uns.

So I took that experience and many prior and used them to measure my worth.

I'd come up with ideas and plans in my head and count myself out before even trying. Then if I did try, I was already telling the universe subconsciously not to make it happen by the amount of doubt plaguing my mind everyday.

I've learned these five tools to quiet my old roomie and take control of my mindset so that I could achieve my goals.

𝐒𝐞𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐭- based on our experiences we come up with these limiting beliefs that we hold as truths, ie: I’m not worthy because my ex left me. That is NOT a fact. Facts are measurable.
𝐅𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞- after my ex left, I could only think about how I’d end up alone, and that no on would want me. It wasn’t until I started to see the blessing in the circumstance that I could be grateful for what I did have.
𝐑𝐞𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐞𝐬- “Don’t cry”, “Move on”, “Your husband leaving you isn’t an excuse not to come to class”. Misguided rules! I became very resentful while going through my divorce because I wasn’t given the opportunity to grieve. Everyone has emotions and should be allowed to hold space for them without guilt.
𝐅𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐭 ’𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐭- Now this one I had to truly learn the meaning of. It doesn’t mean, wing it and see what happens, or to pretend to be something you’re not out of ego and vanity lol. Moreso, have the courage to take risks, surround yourself with people who inspire you, invest in program coaches/mentors to guide you to where you want to be and your confidence will build naturally.
𝐕𝐢𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬- I’ll be honest, this took me a while to get to. It took a long time to finally able to see my future and it feels tangible, and let me be honest… I still have my days. It’s a good feeling though to wakeup and actually feel at peace. I promise, if you focus on your healing journey, you too can have it all boo!

This is something I really wish I knew YEARS ago. And in my master class, (oh yeah, since I've been preparing so much for the class, I haven't written a blog in weeks... well surprise!)

We will be deep-diving into these concepts to get my sister-friends on their way to living confidently and boldly in their purpose! That means!!! My sisStars are going to be showing up confidently in their business, in their relationships, friendships, and I'll be giving them the tools to wake up eager to strut their confidence catwalk of life! Eowwww!!!

Tell that roommate in your head to shut the heck up, and kick her out!

You are worthy.

You’re doing the work.

You are supported.

Keep going!